Please note: A person’s sexual orientation is separate to their gender identity. For example; there are people who are gender diverse who are heterosexual, bisexual, and homosexual. Therefore, Dave Wells views the sexual orientation of a person who is gender diverse as being dependent on the gender identity of the person in context to the gender/s of whom they are sexually and romantically attracted to.
For example; A trans-person sexually attracted to both men and women = A bisexual sexual orientation.
Bisexuality is romantic attraction, sexual attraction, or sexual behaviour toward both males and females. When a person is romantic or sexual attracted to people of any sex or gender identity, it is known as pansexuality. This definition can be based on some misconceptions about gender, as you can’t always tell by looking at someone whether they’re a man, a woman, or cisgender (a person whose sense of personal identity and gender corresponds with their birth sex.).
Dave Wells views the gender of a person by how they represent and identify and not by their sexual genitalia. This view allows for the definition of bisexual to replace the term polygamy, however there are people whose attraction does not extend to particular gender-diverse identities as well as people who are not attracted to cis-gendered people. Therefore, the label of bisexual is not simply confined to being attracted to just cis-male and cis-female, nor does it sit on the half-way mark between heterosexuality and homosexuality. Many bisexual identifying people have a preference for one gender over the other, but this preference can change by the connections they have to individual people.
One of the most persistent myths about bisexuality is the idea that it doesn’t exist and that the person is just going through a “phase” or hide that they’re really gay? For numerous reasons bisexual people receive unfair judgement from both heterosexual and homosexual people. For many gay men coming to terms with their sexual orientation they often identify themselves as bisexual to “test the waters” or as a ‘stepping stone towards self-acceptance’. In these situations the gay person often has a lot of confusion, fear of judgement and rejection, therefore often portrays the identity as insecure and one that mis-leads people or is indecisive.
Other myths include that bisexual people are “sitting on the fence” and will eventually must pick a side (Male or female). Some people’s sexuality is fluid, meaning it changes from time to time.
It’s also possible that you’ve learned more about yourself and sexuality over time, and realized you were never bisexual in the first place.
The journey to figure out who you are is an important one, growing to know yourself more is a display of personal strength that often translates in being viewed as more sexually attracted by others.