Diverse sexual activities, paraphilia’s and fetishes

Please Note:

There are ‘Paraphilia’s that are against Australian Law, as well as the best interest of people and other living things.  Dave Wells respects that all people should be entitled to receive professional support to assist them with changing behaviours that cause harm, and that the systems in place often inhibit people from accessing support.  However, a good therapist should identify their own limitations and refer clients who are outside of these to more appropriate service providers.

If you have fetishes, diverse sexual activities that are outside of what is listed in this section of the web site I do not personally address these topics, however I am able to meet with you to gain an understanding of your needs to assist you to find appropriate referrals.

What is a paraphilia? What are the different types of paraphilias?

The word paraphilia derives from Greek; ‘para’ means around or beside, and philia means love.

The definition of paraphilia is any emotional disorder (paraphilic disorder) characterized by sexually arousing fantasies, urges, or behaviours that are recurrent, intense, occur over a period of at least six months, and cause significant distress or interfere with the sufferer’s work, social function, or other important areas of functioning.

Some people with paraphilia’s manage them into their lives without negativity and have partners who either share the same fetishes, or are aroused by their roles when engaging, or enjoy bringing sexual arousal to their partners.  There are however people who live with a paraphilia and suffer in secret or silence out of shame, and therefore will not seek support for   their paraphilia.

Dave Wells defines a paraphilia as only being a ‘health condition’ when it is identified as problematic for the sufferer, and/or places other in harm, and the sufferer has attempted techniques such as avoidance or behavioural management unsuccessfully.

Many have paraphilia’s that they enjoy and manage.  Paraphilia’s are usually a result of life experiences, usually in in the early years of a person’s life.  Much literature on law-abiding paraphilia’s treat them as an unhealthy sexual activity, however Dave Wells views them as a diversity of human sexuality and can support you to engage in your preferred sexual activity in a healthy way that protects your mind, body and lifestyle

  • Most individuals with paraphilia’s are men although a much lower percentage among women. However, due to the many societal barriers that exist for reporting, the true numbers of people engaging in paraphilic behaviours is difficult to identify.
  • Most people who develop a paraphilia begin having fantasies about it before they are 13 years old.
  • Urges to engage in coercive or otherwise aggressive sex like rape are not symptoms of a mental illness. Such sexual offending is therefore not considered a paraphilia.

According to the most current standard reference for mental disorders, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-5), preceded by the DSM-IV and DSM-IV-TR, there are a number of different types of paraphilia’s, each of which has a different focus of the persons sexual arousal:

Names of Paraphilia                                       Focus of erotic interest

Abasiophilia                                                    People with impaired mobility

Acrotomophilia                                              People with amputations

Agalmatophilia                                              Statues, mannequins and immobility

Algolagnia                                                      Pain, particularly involving an erogenous zone (differs from masochism)

Andromimetophilia                                       Trans men

Anililagnia                                                      Attraction by young men to older women

Apotemnophilia                                             Being an amputee

Asphyxiophilia                                                Being asphyxiated or strangled

Attraction to disability                                  People with one or more physical disabilities

Autagonistophilia                                          Being on stage or on camera

Autoandrophilia                                            A biological female imagining herself as a male

Autoerotic asphyxiation                               Self-induced asphyxiation, sometimes to the point of near unconsciousness.

Autogynephilia                                              A biological male imagining himself as a female

Autonepiophilia                                             The image of one’s self in the form of an infant.

Autopedophilia                                              The image of one’s self in the form of a child.

Autoplushophilia                                           The image of one’s self in the form of a plush or anthropomorphized animal.

Autozoophilia                                                 The image of one’s self in the form of an animal or anthropomorphized animal.

Chronophilia                                                   Partners of a widely differing chronological age

Coprophilia Faeces;                                       Sexual arousal from faeces (Shit) also known as ‘scat’, ‘scatophilia’ or ‘fecophilia’

Dacryphilia                                                     Tears or crying

Diaper fetishism;                                            Considerable overlap with ‘paraphilic infantilism’

Dendrophilia                                                   Trees

Emetophilia                                                     Vomit

Eproctophilia                                                   Flatulence (Farting)

Erotic asphyxiation                                         Asphyxia of oneself or others

Exhibitionism                                                   Exposing one’s genitals to unsuspecting and non-consenting others

Feederism                                                        Eating, feeding, and weight gain.

Formicophilia                                                   Being crawled on by insects

Frotteurism                                                      Rubbing against a non-consenting person

Gerontophilia                                                   Elderly people

Gynandromorphophilia or

Gynemimetophilia                                          Transsexual or Transgender women

Haircut fetishism                                            Having their head hair cut or shaved, by cutting the hair of another, by watching someone get a haircut, or by seeing someone with a shaved head or very short hair.

Heterophilia                                                      Idealization of heterosexuality and/or people who are “straight-acting,” especially by non-heterosexual people.

Homeovestism                                                 Wearing clothing emblematic of one’s own sex

Klismaphilia                                                      Enemas, arousal and enjoyment in receiving, administering, or both.

Lactophilia                                                        Breast milk

Liquidophilia                                                     Immersing genitals in liquids

Maschalagnia                                                   Armpits

Mazophilia                                                        Highly atypical sexual interest focused on female breasts.

Masochism                                                       Suffering or humiliation; being beaten, bound or otherwise abused.

Mechanophilia                                                  Cars or other machines; also “mechaphilia.”

Morphophilia                                                     Particular body shapes or sizes

Mysophilia                                                         Dirtiness, soiled or decaying things

Necrophilia                                                        Corpses

Objectophilia                                                     Specific inanimate objects

Olfactophilia                                                      Smells

Omorashi                                                           Arousal from having a full bladder and/or wetting oneself, or from seeing someone else experiencing a full bladder and/or wetting themselves.

Paraphilic infantilism                                        Dressing or being treated like a baby, also known as  autonepiophilia or “adult baby syndrome”; considerable overlap with diaper fetishism

Partialism                                                           Specific, non-genital body parts

Pictophilia                                                           Pornography or erotic art, particularly pictures

Plushophilia                                                        Stuffed toy animals (Plushies).

Pubephilia                                                           Sight or feel of pubic hair.

Pygophilia                                                           Buttocks, as in a highly atypical sexual interest focused on the buttocks.

Raptophilia                                                         Consensual rape fantasy

Sadism                                                                Inflicting pain on others

Salirophilia                                                          Soiling or dirtying others

Sexual fetishism                                                 Nonliving objects

Somnophilia                                                        Sleeping or unconscious people

Sthenolagnia                                                       Muscles and displays of strength

Stigmatophilia                                                     Body piercings and tattoos

Toucherism                                                         Touching an unsuspecting, non-consenting person with the hand

Transvestic fetishism                                         Wearing clothes associated with the opposite sex; also known as transvestism

Transvestophilia                                                  A transvestite sexual partner

Trichophilia                                                          Hair

Troilism/Cuckoldism                                          Watching one’s partner have sex with someone else, possibly without the third party’s knowledge

Urolagnia/Urination                                            Particularly in public, on others, and/or being urinated on. Also referred to as “water sports”

Vampirism                                                           Blood

Voyeurism                                                           Watching others while naked or having sex, generally without their knowledge; also known as scopophilia or scoptophilia.

Wet and messy fetishism                                  Messy situations, including, but not limited to, being covered in cream or food, or covered in mud

Zoophilia                                                              Animals