There are ‘Paraphilia’s that are against Australian Law, as well as the best interest of people and other living things. Dave Wells respects that all people should be entitled to receive professional support to assist them with changing behaviours that cause harm, and that the systems in place often inhibit people from accessing support. However, a good therapist should identify their own limitations and refer clients who are outside of these to more appropriate service providers.
If you have fetishes, diverse sexual activities that are outside of what is listed in this section of the web site I do not personally address these topics, however I am able to meet with you to gain an understanding of your needs to assist you to find appropriate referrals.
What is a paraphilia? What are the different types of paraphilias?
The word paraphilia derives from Greek; ‘para’ means around or beside, and philia means love.
The definition of paraphilia is any emotional disorder (paraphilic disorder) characterized by sexually arousing fantasies, urges, or behaviours that are recurrent, intense, occur over a period of at least six months, and cause significant distress or interfere with the sufferer’s work, social function, or other important areas of functioning.
Some people with paraphilia’s manage them into their lives without negativity and have partners who either share the same fetishes, or are aroused by their roles when engaging, or enjoy bringing sexual arousal to their partners. There are however people who live with a paraphilia and suffer in secret or silence out of shame, and therefore will not seek support for their paraphilia.
Dave Wells defines a paraphilia as only being a ‘health condition’ when it is identified as problematic for the sufferer, and/or places other in harm, and the sufferer has attempted techniques such as avoidance or behavioural management unsuccessfully.
Many have paraphilia’s that they enjoy and manage. Paraphilia’s are usually a result of life experiences, usually in in the early years of a person’s life. Much literature on law-abiding paraphilia’s treat them as an unhealthy sexual activity, however Dave Wells views them as a diversity of human sexuality and can support you to engage in your preferred sexual activity in a healthy way that protects your mind, body and lifestyle
- Most individuals with paraphilia’s are men although a much lower percentage among women. However, due to the many societal barriers that exist for reporting, the true numbers of people engaging in paraphilic behaviours is difficult to identify.
- Most people who develop a paraphilia begin having fantasies about it before they are 13 years old.
- Urges to engage in coercive or otherwise aggressive sex like rape are not symptoms of a mental illness. Such sexual offending is therefore not considered a paraphilia.
According to the most current standard reference for mental disorders, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-5), preceded by the DSM-IV and DSM-IV-TR, there are a number of different types of paraphilia’s, each of which has a different focus of the persons sexual arousal:
Names of Paraphilia Focus of erotic interest
Abasiophilia People with impaired mobility
Acrotomophilia People with amputations
Agalmatophilia Statues, mannequins and immobility
Algolagnia Pain, particularly involving an erogenous zone (differs from masochism)
Andromimetophilia Trans men
Anililagnia Attraction by young men to older women
Apotemnophilia Being an amputee
Asphyxiophilia Being asphyxiated or strangled
Attraction to disability People with one or more physical disabilities
Autagonistophilia Being on stage or on camera
Autoandrophilia A biological female imagining herself as a male
Autoerotic asphyxiation Self-induced asphyxiation, sometimes to the point of near unconsciousness.
Autogynephilia A biological male imagining himself as a female
Autonepiophilia The image of one’s self in the form of an infant.
Autopedophilia The image of one’s self in the form of a child.
Autoplushophilia The image of one’s self in the form of a plush or anthropomorphized animal.
Autozoophilia The image of one’s self in the form of an animal or anthropomorphized animal.
Chronophilia Partners of a widely differing chronological age
Coprophilia Faeces; Sexual arousal from faeces (Shit) also known as ‘scat’, ‘scatophilia’ or ‘fecophilia’
Dacryphilia Tears or crying
Diaper fetishism; Considerable overlap with ‘paraphilic infantilism’
Eproctophilia Flatulence (Farting)
Erotic asphyxiation Asphyxia of oneself or others
Exhibitionism Exposing one’s genitals to unsuspecting and non-consenting others
Feederism Eating, feeding, and weight gain.
Formicophilia Being crawled on by insects
Frotteurism Rubbing against a non-consenting person
Gerontophilia Elderly people
Gynemimetophilia Transsexual or Transgender women
Haircut fetishism Having their head hair cut or shaved, by cutting the hair of another, by watching someone get a haircut, or by seeing someone with a shaved head or very short hair.
Heterophilia Idealization of heterosexuality and/or people who are “straight-acting,” especially by non-heterosexual people.
Homeovestism Wearing clothing emblematic of one’s own sex
Klismaphilia Enemas, arousal and enjoyment in receiving, administering, or both.
Lactophilia Breast milk
Liquidophilia Immersing genitals in liquids
Mazophilia Highly atypical sexual interest focused on female breasts.
Masochism Suffering or humiliation; being beaten, bound or otherwise abused.
Mechanophilia Cars or other machines; also “mechaphilia.”
Morphophilia Particular body shapes or sizes
Mysophilia Dirtiness, soiled or decaying things
Objectophilia Specific inanimate objects
Omorashi Arousal from having a full bladder and/or wetting oneself, or from seeing someone else experiencing a full bladder and/or wetting themselves.
Paraphilic infantilism Dressing or being treated like a baby, also known as autonepiophilia or “adult baby syndrome”; considerable overlap with diaper fetishism
Partialism Specific, non-genital body parts
Pictophilia Pornography or erotic art, particularly pictures
Plushophilia Stuffed toy animals (Plushies).
Pubephilia Sight or feel of pubic hair.
Pygophilia Buttocks, as in a highly atypical sexual interest focused on the buttocks.
Raptophilia Consensual rape fantasy
Sadism Inflicting pain on others
Salirophilia Soiling or dirtying others
Sexual fetishism Nonliving objects
Somnophilia Sleeping or unconscious people
Sthenolagnia Muscles and displays of strength
Stigmatophilia Body piercings and tattoos
Toucherism Touching an unsuspecting, non-consenting person with the hand
Transvestic fetishism Wearing clothes associated with the opposite sex; also known as transvestism
Transvestophilia A transvestite sexual partner
Troilism/Cuckoldism Watching one’s partner have sex with someone else, possibly without the third party’s knowledge
Urolagnia/Urination Particularly in public, on others, and/or being urinated on. Also referred to as “water sports”
Voyeurism Watching others while naked or having sex, generally without their knowledge; also known as scopophilia or scoptophilia.
Wet and messy fetishism Messy situations, including, but not limited to, being covered in cream or food, or covered in mud