Fisting

People can be fearful about putting big things inside of their vaginas or anuses, and rightfully so. The idea of putting an over-size dildo, a large/thick penis, or even an entire fist inside of you can be very intimidating.

Fisting, in particular, seems to be shrouded in a unique kind of taboo, which is unfortunate — if people knew more about the sex practice, more people who fantasise about it would be able to experience enjoyment.  If the idea of fisting is intriguing to you, there’s no reason to let fear or sex negativity stop you from trying it out. You just need to learn exactly what it entails and how to prepare for it.

When insertion of the hand or arm into the vagina or rectum:

  • Fisting should not be painful.
  • If it is painful – the arse is not ready or you may not be in the right mind-set (e.g. comfort with the partner, lack of trust, etc.). Usually a mental barrier will be the main reason.
  • It is vital to respect your body’s limits – know when to stop.
  • Communication – verbal and non-verbal are is extremely important when it comes to fisting.
  • Flood of endorphins – proteins with strong analgesic (painkilling) qualities are realised in the person receiving.
  • Surprisingly fisting is a very emotional act
  • Sufficient preparation, care & precautions are necessary for personal safety.

For some it’s the most intense erotic experience

  • Often described as extreme intimacy – merging with my partner or becoming at one with the universe; so fisting is all about feelings.
  • On this page are tips about regarding safety , hygiene, and preparation. These will assist you to take control when it comes to fisting.
  • Fisting itself is not high risk of HIV although transmission can occur if the person doing the fisting has open wounds on the hand and bleeding occurs.

Fisting in the anus is not only an activity performed by gay men – as with all sex activity there are people who enjoy anal sex and play regardless of their sexual orientation.  The prostate when rubbed can cause intense sexual stimulation to the male, and often is referred to as the “male g-spot”.

Due to the hand being a large object in the anus, it is very difficult not to feel it rubbing  your prostate and gives reason to why many men who are into this activity describe it as having an internal orgasm, and therefore the most intense orgasm a man can experience.

If you are interested in exploring fisting, here are some tips to increase the likelihood of success:

For the Receptive Partner:

  • What you eat and drink in the days prior to fisting is important
  • A relaxed and calm mood is essential
  • Douching prior – clean out – but do not over-do it or it can become too dry.
  • After cleaning allow time to relax and unload any retained water. This will allow the anal mucus to re-balance.
  • Preparation via diet & other factors can make a huge difference when being fisted.

For the partner performing the activity:

  • Fingernails they must be filed down
  • Make sure that there are no sharp edges.
  • Rings and watches should be removed.
  • Dry skin, scabs can cause damage and be uncomfortable for the receiver
  • Gloves – protect you both if you are concerned about transmission of HIV.

For both Partners:

  • Relax together beforehand
  • Build intimacy and trust.
  • Unlimited amount of time – fisting is rarely a quick type of activity.
  • Don’t be goal centric – enjoy the journey.
  • Having the proper mindset is essential for fisting. (e.g. Relaxed)
  • How much you get in – isn’t the point!
  • Never feel compelled to go further than you want, or feel you able to go.
  • Don’t try to impress your partner
  • Penile intercourse after fisting isn’t a good idea due to the potential of damage to occur. Penile intercourse first, then fist, or alternatively fist and intercourse separately.
  • Learn from experienced players.
  • Entry is the challenge – learning a good entry technique is vital.
  • Getting a hand in – can be a mind blowing experience – especially for newer fisting bottoms – be prepared for it!
  • Receivers should remember to breathe deeply and slowly – relax, relax, relax.

Get out – Get out – Get out

  • It is common to have the need to stop immediately upon insertion.
  • Deep breathing – followed a deliberately slow withdrawal is the safest – never pull your hand out quickly. Nor should the bottom push it out quickly.
  • Keep in mind that for people who are new to the experience– you may not get back in again during this session & that’s OK.
  • Inserters – should keep their movement to a minimum – if in doubt – slow down or stop. Over-movement is sure way to tear rectal tissue & cause injury.  It will help with insertion if the receiver focuses on breathing slowly & deeply and remains relaxed.
  • In the case of anal-fisting, the muscles initially take the action of expelling what’s in it – Through relaxing and breathing as you are pushing out through the anus, the muscles expand allowing for easier insertion. If you have douched prior then you know that pushing out isn’t going to result in passing faeces.  Just let the process take its own time.

Afterward engaging in the activity:

  • Give your anus or vagina at least a couple of days to recover.
  • Don’t douche
  • If you feel any cramping, rumbling, or other gas pain – you can try; no-strain toilet techniques and high fibre diet.
  • But if you have any ongoing discomfort or pain – get yourself to a Doctor. Remember:  Discussing your participation in fisting can make you feel very vulnerable which usually results in dealing with the problem yourself.  A doctor is trained for all possibilities that effect the health of a person and if you receive a bad reaction then it’s time to find yourself a new doctor.

How far you get depends on any numbers of factors including:

  • How experienced you are
  • Current level of stress in your life
  • Level of fatigue
  • General Health
  • Degree of comfort with your partner

Lubricants:

It is best that you utilise a lot of lubricant for fisting to allow for the fist to slide easier and minimise any damage done.  Some people have allergies to particular lubricants, and some experience a burning sensation.  There are a number of different lubricants in the market, including some that are organic.  Prior to engaging in being fisted, it is best to ensure that you have a lubricant handy that is proven as beneficial for you personally.