Please note: A person’s sexual orientation is separate to their gender identity. For example; there are people who are gender diverse who are heterosexual, bisexual, and homosexual. Therefore, Dave Wells views the sexual orientation of a person who is gender diverse as being dependent upon the gender identity of the person in context to the gender/s of whom they are sexually and romantically attracted to.
E.g.; A trans-man or trans-woman sexually attracted to people of the opposite gender = A heterosexual
One hundred years ago, people had a very different idea of what it means to be heterosexual.
The 1901 Dorland’s Medical Dictionary defined heterosexuality as an “abnormal or perverted appetite toward the opposite sex.” More than two decades later, in 1923, Merriam Webster’s dictionary similarly defined it as “morbid sexual passion for one of the opposite sex.” It wasn’t until 1934 that heterosexuality was graced with the meaning we’re familiar with today: “manifestation of sexual passion for one of the opposite sex; normal sexuality.”
Brandon Ambrosino 2017 (https://www.bbc.com/)
Sexuality is diverse and personal, which makes it unique to us, however we live in a society that places more emphasis on heterosexuality. A majority of people in our society identifies as heterosexual, however many people under this identity have different variations of heterosexual which is rarely identified and can place much pressure on people outside of a 100% attraction to the opposite sex. These feelings and desires are usually kept in the hidden. Heterosexual is therefore just another diagnostic label that restricts people from discovering their own personal sexual make-up.
People who are heterosexual are romantically and physically attracted to members of the opposite sex: Heterosexual males are attracted to females, and vice versa. Another label sometime used for heterosexual is “straight.”
Heterosexuality is romantic attraction, sexual attraction, or sexual behaviour between members of the opposite sex or gender. As a sexual orientation, Heterosexuality is “an enduring pattern of emotional, romantic, and/or sexual attractions” to people of the opposite sex. It also refers to a person’s sense of identity based on those attractions, related behaviours, and membership in a community of others who share those attractions.
Along with bisexuality and homosexuality, Heterosexuality is one of the three main categories of sexual orientation within the heterosexual–homosexual continuum.
Scientists do not know the exact cause of sexual orientation, but they theorize that it is caused by a complex interplay of genetic, hormonal, and environmental influences, and do not view it as a choice. Contrary to many societal myths there is no substantive evidence which suggests parenting or early childhood experiences play a role with regard to sexual orientation.
Adapted from: Frankowski BL; American Academy of Paediatrics Committee on Adolescence (June 2004).
Whether this page on heterosexuality or the page on homosexuality, you will notice that much of the information about the sexual orientation is exactly the same, only with the sexual identities changed. The two sexual orientations (Heterosexual and homosexual) have vastly different societal pressures, however the difficulties experienced by men within the two categories do over-lap.
There are many differences between men and women, both in the way we’re designed physically, and the way we process things emotionally. Romantic and sexual relationships between a man and woman can be challenging, and men can often find it a lonely process not having another man to talk to openly and comfortably. Due to Dave Wells having a broad professional history working with men’s health as well as people who are gender diverse, he has the knowledge and skills to support you through any difficulties that arise with being heterosexual.
The journey to figure out who you are is an important one, growing to have a good sense of self, and gain acceptance, is a display of personal strength that often translates in being viewed as more sexually attracted by others, but more importantly feeling attractive in ourselves.