From birth through to death the male sexual body takes many journeys. Whether ‘Cis male’ or ‘Trans-male’, the production or inclusion of testosterone is the vehicle for many of those journeys.
Between the turmoil of puberty and the decline of old age, the human body reaches its peak, in biological terms, as adults in our twenties and thirties, we are the completed portrait. However, at the same time, people can experience interference to a health sexuality at any age.
Sex can be a powerful emotional experience and a great tool for protecting or improving health We often only consider sex as being for the young, and it’s certainly not only for the young. The need for intimacy and touch is ageless.
As a person going through puberty or even through early adulthood, we often judge our attractiveness by the sexual attention that we receive from others. You may feel that you do not fit in, unattractive or another barrier to having a healthy sexual-being. Difficulties with a healthy sexual development can have a negative effect on many different areas of our life including; our relationships, employment, lifestyle and over-all well-being. It would be fair to say that our sexual-being underpins every aspect of our lives, and yet it is probably the least talked about and least addressed area. If you are unwell, fatigued, if you have a sore tooth, we see someone about it and we won’t hesitate with sharing it with others. If we have problems with our sexual performance, physically or mentally, or a sexual health condition, in most instances we keep to too ourselves. But with age comes wisdom (if not then it should).
As an older adult, you may feel wiser than you were in your earlier years, and know what works best for you when it comes to your sex life. Older people often have a great deal more self-confidence and self-awareness, and feel released from the unrealistic ideals of youth and prejudices of others. On the other side, problems with health and the medications to treat them, can cause problems with sexual performance and in turn it can affect our self-esteem and sexual interest.
Sexual changes in men are inevitable, they affect us regardless of age. From vitality in our youth to the sexual positives and negatives caused by aging, our sexuality is connected to our state of mind, our emotions, physical and mental health. Some of the sexual changes will be a natural progression of the human condition, and some we will count as a loss, however in our modern world with its access to information, availability of support services, new treatments, and increased sex-positive attitudes, it is possible to have a healthy sexuality regardless of the changes and challenges that we face.
Sexuality is arguably the only natural part of being human that has been fraught with values, discrimination and persecution by societal institutions and others who adopt these views, resulting in the formation of sexual-being that fit with external expectations, rather than identifying and nurturing our sexual individuality in a healthy way.
You can avoid letting this happen by being proactive. Whether you are seeking to restart or improve your sex life, it’s important to be ready to try new things, and to ask for professional help if necessary. There is much you can do to compensate for the normal changes that come with any developmental stages of life, and with proper information and support, all of your adult years can be an exciting time to explore both the emotional and sensual aspects of your sexuality.